Key To Success

What do you do when you come across a key to success in a book you're reading? You ponder over it. Since I read many books and come across many keys, I thought it would be fun to share the ideas that arise as I contemplate a key to success. Reading is not just about absorbing information, it's also about contemplating, allowing the ideas to blossom within, and nurturing a seed tossed in the rich soil of the inner garden.

Location: Denver, Colorado, United States

I got my Master's degree in psychotherapy more than a decade ago. Since then I've studied the human condition with fascination. Over the years, I've learned a singular lesson: your life does not work when you oppose your soul nature. If you want a magical life, you have to drop your inauthentic transactions with the world. You discover your own power when you spend time alone to figure out what you really love to do.

Friday, December 23, 2005

Who Else Wants A Happy Marriage?

You don’t realize it, but in the next few minutes, you’re going to rekindle your passion for your spouse.

Remember that first date? How long ago was it? I know you can remember…go back there now. I want you to remember something…the butterflies in your stomach, the magic, the awkwardness, and that rush of anticipation.

Did you get nervous? Did you preen yourself before the mirror for hours before the appointed time? Did your heart beat faster when you first saw him or her coming through the restaurant door or sitting at a table waiting for you as you rushed in late.

Why were you nervous?

Isn’t it because that meeting was special? You wanted everything to turn out right. You wanted to be right for the other person. You anticipated a magical future.

What happened before that date? What kind of person were you? What kind of person did you want to meet? And how did you feel when you first saw him or her?

Now plunge right into the moments of that first date. Do you remember how he or she looked at you? Do you remember exchanging meaningful glances? Do you remember the smile, the motion of the hand, and the tilt of the head? What did you talk about on that first date? How did you feel?

What happened after the date? Where did you go? What did you do?

Can you recall that burst of happiness? When did it occur?

Do you remember the silences, the jokes, the special music, and the magical places?

How long did your romance last?

How do you feel right now? Is the magic still there? Has it faded away?

If you’re like me, you want the magic to make a come-back.

Now, it’s time to do something special. Ask your spouse out on a date. And during your date, ask him or her the questions that you’ve just finished answering. See if something magical might happen again.

Saleem Rana is a psychotherapist in Denver, Colorado. If you want to learn more about how to easily transform a miserable, lifeless marriage relationship into one filled with love, happiness, and excitement, you can find more information at

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