Key To Success

What do you do when you come across a key to success in a book you're reading? You ponder over it. Since I read many books and come across many keys, I thought it would be fun to share the ideas that arise as I contemplate a key to success. Reading is not just about absorbing information, it's also about contemplating, allowing the ideas to blossom within, and nurturing a seed tossed in the rich soil of the inner garden.

Location: Denver, Colorado, United States

I got my Master's degree in psychotherapy more than a decade ago. Since then I've studied the human condition with fascination. Over the years, I've learned a singular lesson: your life does not work when you oppose your soul nature. If you want a magical life, you have to drop your inauthentic transactions with the world. You discover your own power when you spend time alone to figure out what you really love to do.

Wednesday, March 22, 2006

Take arms against a sea of misfortune

Difficulties happen to everyone. It is how you choose to respond that helps you emerge victorious despite the yawning jaws of defeat that may suddenly seem to appear out of nowhere, like a sudden shark infestation.

Everyone has had financial challenges, feelings of frustration, a disempowering job and disappointing relationships at some point. But you can still win, by simply choosing to take on that attitude.

Focus on solutions. Set aside the heavy emotions of despair that comes to undermine you, and, instead, focus on solutions. Ask, “What is my lesson here?” “How can I emerge stronger?” “If I can crack this problem, I’ll never have to visit with it again.”

We all experience frustration, fear, shame, or guilt. It comes with the package. But, through choice, you can also indulge in empowering emotions—determination, resolution, courage, a belief in your dreams when no one else cares.

You can choose your emotions. You can convert emotions of despair, into an emotion of will and determination to overcome. Think of what it is costing you if you don’t control the quality of your emotion.

Stay in control. Don’t let life knock you over. As the bard said, “take arms against a sea of troubles, and thus opposing end them.”

Be the hero of your own life. Build wealth, build health, build harmonious relationships, and above all, build an invincible belief in your will to overcome.

Victory in life does not go to the weak, the frightened, or the forlorn; it goes to those who turn these natural reactions into their opposite.

So, the next time you feel yourself becoming emotional overwhelmed by a painful circumstance,think of the consequences of fighting back. Spend your time, money, and
energy to fight the problem and not to lose yourself to the problem. I would encourage you to spend your time seeking out immediate solutions rather than reviewing the angst. You will be better off – and that’s a personal promise!

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Saleem Rana is a psychotherapist in Denver, Colorado. If you're up to the challenge and want to create the kind of freedom and lifestyle you truly deserve - starting now - then get his free book from


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Tuesday, March 21, 2006

Why People Fail To Achieve Goals

Although most self-help experts claim that setting goals are the golden key to success, many people set goals and nothing happens.

Why does this happen?

Imagine Harold is obese, went to get a physical checkup, got alarming results, and was sternly warned by his doctor to do something about his excess weight or else….

Motivated by fear, Harold decides to set a goal of losing weight.

His first goal is to read a book on weight loss and to then set a plan into motion.

He reads the book and makes a plan, then months later finds that he did not even follow his plan.

Here is what has probably happened.

He did not write down his goal, and he did not read it daily. In effect, he lost track of what goal he had in mind. He drifted away from his goal and looking back, he sees that he did not do any work toward it.

Looking back over the wasted 6 months when he could have accomplished his goal, he saw that he did not act because—

He felt tired after work, and he did not have the energy to follow his goal of eating right and doing exercise.

He got distracted, and he had to help his mother recover from her hospital visit, his wife deal with the kids and his friend Ed find a new car. Besides, there were ball games, TV shows, and trips to the Zoo with the family.

He justified himself when challenged by his wife on not following his goal with the word “but” in his sentence…as in “I was going to it today BUT I didn’t because…”

He got into agreeing while disagreeing by saying, “yes, but” in his sentences…as in “Yes, that is a great idea, and I’m going to do it, BUT…”

He became eloquent in arguing for his limitations. “I’m just one of those people who don’t have strong feelings about things.” “If only I had been raised by more assertive parents, I might have been able to deal with the pressures at work better.”

He started to offer reasons why rather than produce results. “Well you see the reason I can’t do it right now is because…”

He made self-defeating choices, moment by moment, day by day, week by week, and month by month.

He basically felt uncomfortable changing his habits. He felt twinges of fear, guilt, and unworthiness. He felt hurt, angry, overwhelmed and confused. And he just “did not feel good” when he tried to work on changing his habits to align with his goals.

After six months, he remained as obese and as unhealthy as before despite his doctor’s warning about his alarming physical checkup results.

It’s easy to set a goal, and it’s easy to make plan, and when you don’t know how to execute your plan, it’s possible to educate yourself…but the real work is in doing it, diligently, day-by-day, in a highly focused way. The truth is that anyone can achieve any goal if they can get out of their own way and (as the Nike people suggest) “Just Do It.”

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Monday, March 20, 2006

Why You Must Find Your Passion, Set Goals And Live Your Dream

Some people have been so hurt by life that they have lost their passion for it. They have, in essence, lost touch with their dream.

However, we all have a dream. It is an aspect of consciousness to be creative. It is part of the nature of the human soul to aspire.

Furthermore, just as every face on the planet is unique, so too is your talent to fulfill your dream. Just as no two people write or speak in the same way, so too every talent is unique.

We all have a unique dream and a unique talent with which to fulfill it.

Unfortunately, few of us do anything with either.

Those who do--soar. They are the leaders and visionaries of our world, the artist and the scientist, the scholar and the activist, the explorer and the inventor. They are the ones who appear to have a gilded life, and they turn the burden of their struggles into an enormous victory that benefits the highest good.

If we all have a dream, and we all have the raw talent to fulfill it, then why do so few of us aspire to do anything more than continue a dull existence?

It is because we are stuck in a comfort zone.

A comfort zone is a psychological condition created in our childhood that makes us feel in control, approved, and safe. It is a sense of well-being in the world. Whenever, we cross its invisible barriers, we feel acute discomfort, usually in the form of anxiety or depression. We instinctively rush back to feeling better again by denying the emergence of unfamiliar experiences.

Unfortunately, personal growth can only come from crossing the comfort zone and stepping into the heart of the unknown. The rules that apply to a dependent, limited child are not good rules for an independent, unlimited adult.

Fulfillment in life can only come from transcending our comfort zone and stepping into a place where we can learn anew. Our talents will not blossom unless we learn how to set goals and hone our skills, and they will not find expression unless we risk putting them out into the world.

You’re going to have to do something with your life. You might as well make it big. The alternative is to cleave to the normal, the dull, and the banal, and to live a life of quiet desperation, where you never really get what you want.

With a little courage, you can conjure up your dream, and with a little effort you can learn how to slowly bring it into the world as part of your living reality. The alternative—a lackluster life devoid of significance—is not even worth considering.

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Saleem Rana got his masters in psychotherapy from California Lutheran University, Thousand Oaks, Ca., 15 years ago. He now resides in Denver, Colorado. His articles on the internet have been read by over ten thousand people from around the world. He loves to share inspiration and motivation for personal development. He offers numerous ways for you to radically improve the quality of your life. To find out more, please visit
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