Key To Success

What do you do when you come across a key to success in a book you're reading? You ponder over it. Since I read many books and come across many keys, I thought it would be fun to share the ideas that arise as I contemplate a key to success. Reading is not just about absorbing information, it's also about contemplating, allowing the ideas to blossom within, and nurturing a seed tossed in the rich soil of the inner garden.

Location: Denver, Colorado, United States

I got my Master's degree in psychotherapy more than a decade ago. Since then I've studied the human condition with fascination. Over the years, I've learned a singular lesson: your life does not work when you oppose your soul nature. If you want a magical life, you have to drop your inauthentic transactions with the world. You discover your own power when you spend time alone to figure out what you really love to do.

Friday, December 30, 2005

"How You Can Acquire the Mindset and Behavior of the Rich, Copy Exactly What They Are Doing to Achieve Financial Success, and Stay Wealthy All Your Li

What makes people wealthy? How have they attained such mastery of their craft? What makes them exhibit such flawless excellence?

Yes, it’s their knowledge and experience, but that is the effect. What is the cause that started them thinking powerfully in the first place?
Simply, it’s the way they think. It’s their mindset.

Today I want to talk about the mindset between the rich and the poor.

You see, the poor work for money. The rich make money work for them. Literally translated, the poor work to gain money in exchange for their services, to pay for bills and all the other expenses. The rich use money to earn money by investing and/or going into business. They employ the services of other people so they do not necessarily have to be physically present to maintain their business. This gives them more free time to engage in other moneymaking ventures. In the case of Internet Marketing, automation replaces labor.

The poor think that the love of money is the root of all evil and that is why they choose to remain poor. The rich think that the lack of money is the root of all evil. They look at the places where crime is rampant, and what they see is a lack of money.

The rich and the poor view the world in diametrically opposite ways!

Say for example, two persons are looking at a yacht, admiring it. The person who chooses to remain poor would say: “I can’t afford to buy a yacht.” The person who chooses to find ways to create wealth would say: “What can I do to own a yacht?” The thinking process of the poor on how to make money is automatically shut down. The rich think about how they can make money, so that they can afford to buy whatever they desire.

The poor advise their children to study hard so that the children can find a good company to work for when schooling is finished. The rich advise their children to study hard so that their children can build a good company or find a good company to buy.

The excuse of the poor is that they are supporting their families, so expenses are high. The motivation of the rich is that they are supporting their families and need to earn more.

A lot of people cringe when it comes to taking risk about money especially the poor. The rich will find ways to control and manage this risk.

On the issue of reaching retirement age, the poor depend on a company or the government taking care of their needs or pension. The rich prefer financial self-reliance.

The poor can afford to save a few dollars. The rich can afford to make investments to increase their wealth.

The poor compose impressive resumes to find good jobs. The rich come up with dynamic business plans to create jobs for others.

The poor say that money does not interest them. The rich find ways to use money to make life more interesting.

We can see that there are lots of differences in thinking attitudes between the poor and the rich. Often times, the directions of thought are opposite each other. How the mind works determines the person. It is unfortunate though that more people choose the easier way to think, which is why the higher percentage of people are in the poor and middle class. But there is always the chance to improve as long as you are willing.

Let me emphasize though that a willing mind to improve oneself, to elevate oneself from being poor to being wealthy, is not enough and will not materialize if it is not coupled with action, the final and most important determinant to turn a poor person into a rich one. Not just any action but intelligent, decisive, fearless action.

Make it happen in 2006!

Saleem Rana is a psychotherapist in Denver, Colorado.
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Thursday, December 29, 2005

"Revealed! Little-Known, Safe, Yet Powerful Techniques to Totally Eliminate Panic and Anxiety Out of Your Life, Even If the Doctors Have Given Up!"

What is fear?

When we were studying emotional imbalances in school, my professor, said fear is an acronym called F.E.A.R. It means a False Estimation Appearing as Real.

We project into the environment our feeling of insecurity and see in it dangers to our well-being. Yet the reality out there has too many variables for us to predict it. Thus, all our anticipations are based on our insecurity, rather than a sudden clairvoyance.

With the proper mindset, determination, and will power, you can conquer your fear.

Everyone has some sort of fear. It is brought about by past traumas, the influence of other fearful people, and our own critical and hypersensitive view of things.

Although, fear is only in our mind, it does appear real to us. How do we break free from it? How long must you remain a hostage to it?

A practical step to take to release it

There is a single practical—and unpleasant step—you can take with any fear—and that is to face it.

Again, you have two choices, here.

You can run a mental simulation of the fearful event in your mind until it no longer has any charge. In these simulations, see yourself handling the fear with a sense of courage.

For example, if you have a fear of spiders, you can imagine that you have many friendly spiders as your pets, or that you rescue spiders from getting drowned in rain gutters, etc. In other words, you take on a very positive picture.

Or, you can also actually go through the event physically, and see how your fears are, in fact, in your mind, and not out there.

For example, if you are afraid of public speaking, you can arrange to join a speaker’s club and work it out in a public setting.

This is how you face your fears head-on and eliminate them.

Your fears can also be more subtle and pervasive.

More subtle anxiety

You may, for example, want to become a published writer, but you don’t know if you can handle the pressure or the rejection from editors, and so on.

Again, doing it, either mentally or even physically will show you that most editors are actually very human; and, in fact, many will even help you to improve your writing skills.

Tap your whole mind

In my experience, whenever I’m really determined to do something, my superconscious mind kicks in. I experience a flow of synchronicity that opens a way where before no way existed.

With the proper mindset, literally anything is possible. Faith in your abilities, in your subconscious intelligence, and in the manifestation of amazing coincidences will see you through anything.

Face your fears.

That’s the cure.

It’s simple and it’s uncomfortable, but it works.

Using visualization and/or action can eliminate any fear.

You’re not alone

In addition, you don’t have to do it alone. There are many skilled therapists who can help you work through your fears.

In fact, I have found phobias can easily be eliminated with the proper techniques.

Saleem Rana is a psychotherapist in Denver, Colorado.

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Wednesday, December 28, 2005

"Who Else Wants Obesity Help to Get Rid of those Stubborn Body Fats, Lose Weight Easily, and Maintain a Healthy, Sexy Body?"

Effects and Possible Complications of Obesity

Obesity increases the risk of developing disease. Possible complications include:
• Heart disease
• High blood pressure
• Cancer
• Diabetes
• Gallbladder disease
• Breathing problems
• Bloating and stomach upsets
• Varicose veins
• Severe psychological problems

In fact, according to some studies, almost 70 percent of heart disease cases in the United States are linked to excess body fat, and obese people are more than twice as likely to develop high blood pressure.

Obese women are at nearly twice the risk for developing breast cancer, and all obese people have an estimated 42 percent higher chance of developing colon cancer.

Almost 80 percent of patients with Type 2, or non-insulin-dependent diabetes mellitus are obese.

The risk of medical complications, particularly heart disease, increases when body fat is distributed around the waist, especially in the abdomen. This type of upper body fat distribution is more common in men than in women.

The social and psychological problems experienced by obese people are also challenging. Discrimination for “fat” people is most likely to occur in educational institutions, employment, and social relationships.

Other psychological effects include stress, nervous tension, boredom, frustration, lack of friends, depression, inferiority complex, and poor self-esteem.

The Proper Plan

Before taking actions in any problem we encounter, there should always be a plan first..

Beginning a task without planning is like building a house without a blueprint or fighting against a basketball team without a team play with your teammates. How can you expect a good outcome?

Losing weight is not at all different from any other situation. It also involves taking action based on proper plans built on good information. The better your plan, the more solid the information it is based on, the more satisfying your result.

Setting a Goal

Okay, so your weight is 20% above the considered normal for your height. You tend to eat more than 5 regular meals a day. You’re certain that you’re physically unfit. Now, the question is, what do you want to happen?

Setting a goal is the first step in planning. Know what you want to accomplish. This way, the road you are taking is clear. You can keep track of your journey – whether or not you are heading in the right direction. With a goal in mind, you are always motivated to finish a task, or in some cases, to start doing it.

Be Definite

Setting a specific goal, when planning to lose weight, improves your chances of success.

Be clear and definite with what you want happen.

Vague aims such as ‘I’d like to be healthier’ or ‘I need to lose a few kilos,’ tend to produce half-hearted efforts and poor results.

Instead, state your goal distinctly: ‘I want to lose 2-3 kilos this week and every week’ or ‘I will trim my waist line from 40” down to 32” by the end of the month.’

If you need to, write it down and put it where you will always see and read it. This way, you’ll always be reminded of what you want and need to accomplish by the end of the month, the week, or even the day.

Be Realistic

In establishing a definite goal, make sure that it is possible and doable – realistic, in simpler terms.

How can a goal like ‘I’ll lose 15 lbs in just a week happen if even the most accurate weight-loss diet suggests that you can only burn 6-7 lbs in a week?

Goals need to be sensible so that they can be achieved.

When you set an unrealistic goal, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. Many people give up on their goals because they fail to base their plans on the correct information.


After deciding on your goal, the next step is planning how to accomplish it.

Planning involves proper scheduling of activities throughout the whole day for a certain period of time.

These include exercises, meals, and rest.

It also includes the time these activities should be done, the duration, and in the case of eating meals, the food to be consumed.

This way, inappropriate spur-of-the-moments decisions can be avoided.

A proper and effective plan consists of quality time for performing such activities. Give yourself enough time to meet your goals. For example, sleep should be scheduled to last for around 8 hours a day so that you’ll be able to get enough rest. Lack of sleep may cause improper eating habit the next day.

Again, plans should be realistic. Include only time and activities you know you can accomplish for a given period of time.

After preparing the plan, write it down since you can’t always keep the many details in mind. Post it in a place where you can always see and read it to remind you what your plans are for the day.

Try your best not to skip anything in your scheduled plan. Work on making it happen.

Change your mind, change your life

The first step to change is in your mind. Once you can activate a positive intention, the process of change begins. If you really want something to happen, you have to say “yes” to it. Then, and only then, can you see and experience ways in which you can shift your reality.

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Tuesday, December 27, 2005

"Give Me a Few Minutes and I'll Show You How to Quickly and Effectively Get More Done in a Week Than What Most People Can Accomplish in a Month!"

Time Management is an essential success skill

Practically speaking, time is constant: 60 seconds per minute, 60 minutes per hour, 24 hours per day, 7 days a week (24/7).

However, the usage of time differs among each individual.

Some might give time the capacity to control their lives, and others may find themselves a slave of time. Some might have no time at all to relax and create a stress-free lifestyle.

But the bottom-line is not to make time an enemy. One must have time to think of things in order, to plan ways to minimize waste of time, energy, and valuable resources.

Effective time management involves patience and practical thinking.

Time and the natural changes in the environment may be modified but, in the end, we should follow the natural order of things.

Remember “There's no day but today.” We should use tools and ideas that can improve our efficiency in using time.

Time is not renewable; and moments are irreplaceable. A thing done or a past experience cannot be recreated.

However, we can expect these changes and prepare ourselves for better or worse scenarios. We cannot control time but we can make adjustments based on a given moment.

Learning or studying something to achieve mastery is one good example where we can minimize errors or develop ourselves amidst the ever-changing times.

During this period of learning, we must maximize the given resources (including time) to fully develop a skill or to acquire knowledge so that by the time we need such skill, we won't be wasting hours trying to figure things out.

One who is able to prepare for a number of possibilities upon entering a situation may have more time to think of the moves and decision to take to minimize the possibilities of errors.

Think of goals and aims as necessary achievements

In achieving your desired goals, you should start with a positive outlook. You must be excited with the challenges and tasks that you have to do to give you the right start or motivation.

However, you should also see the path towards your goals in concrete terms. These achievements or aims can be reached by becoming realistic and by knowing your directions.

Think of the scenarios of success but you should also recognize the fact that these roads have to be traversed in a given time.

This way, you are not only looking at the possibility of success, but you are also giving yourself the right motivation and the proper time to prepare for a fresh start and achieve your goals at the soonest possible time.

Think of the time frame in achieving goals and aims

You are to do a task at a particular time. As you begin planning your strategies, you must also look forward and recognize your time frames in doing such tasks.

Time frames are the periods you are giving yourself to finish a task. These are just estimates or approximations since you are not the sole factor that will contribute in finishing the given task.

Be wary of the processes in your environment; for example, if you are to write a book or an article, consider the time you are giving yourself for this activity in relation to your environment.

Finally, think of the flow of things or the movement of time in your daily life as you move forward in achieving your desired goals.

Think of your other activities that might affect the time factor in finishing given tasks.

You might be spending too much time on a very idle activity (like too many late night parties or soirées or a whole day in front of your computer playing online games) that will give you less time for your plans towards self-fulfillment and success.

Be realistic and expect changes

Time Management involves flexibility and open-mindedness. Do not expect that you can finish a task in what you’ve considered as your time frame unless everything is laid down perfectly.

You should allot some allowance in your time frame, probably for the sake of the unforeseen or unexpected circumstances.

Remember that contradicting factors bring development so don’t be upset with these changes since everything is undergoing a sort of a synthesis.

For example, you already made your business plan and a lot of careful considerations have been completed, including the period in which you expect your business to give you financial and personal satisfaction.

However, during the course of application, there are other factors or changes, which you omitted in your feasibility study. In this case, you should have allowed some time for handling unknown variables.

Instead of becoming immobile or paralyzed with any situation, be flexible by making changes. Level the playing field with innovative strategies based on the situation and knowledge you will acquire from your experience in doing the task.

Maximize your time by examining your errors and by moving on with solutions that will sustain whatever efforts you have given to traverse difficult situations and challenges.

Know your work style

You are a time clock too. You work with your habits, your cycles, and bodily rhythms. You sleep, eat, exercise, read a book, or cook with either efficiency or a sloppy lifestyle.

Give yourself some time to think about how fast you can work on things.

Your sleeping habits and work efficiency are based on what you’ve grown-up with as an individual – you may either stay up late at night or sleep early, unconsciously following past habits that no longer work for you. See what works for you and what needs to be changed.

Finally, examine yourself and know how fast you can work on things, like typing, filing office data, writing a term paper, or even reading a book. You don’t need to know the exact time a task takes but at least you will have an approximate measurement.

When you are able to gauge how you spend your time and how long you take to do things, you can develop a meaningful schedule.

Know your environment or workplace

Your life at home has a time of its own, your office has schedules, and your neighborhood has activities to offer.

You are surrounded by these time schedules. It would be better if you would be conscious of the time flow in your surroundings.

The daily tasks in your house determine your personal time.

Your working hours are defined by the nature of your work and your workplace.

And the activities by the people around you may affect your strategies and daily endeavors.

Finally, you are not alone in your workplace and other people are also wary of their time and schedules.

All of these would affect your time frames and you must be in-synch with all of these to manage your limited time hassle-free.

Make Plans

Planning is a way of saving time for errors.

Mistakes usually happen because of unexpected and unforeseen factors such as a wrong estimate of resources or new problems.

Add a small time allowance to your estimated time so that you may still finish the task in a given time-- even if things don’t go as smoothly as initially planned.

With the proper plan and preparation, these unforeseen circumstances can be expected as well as minimized.

Time management, then, is giving yourself a period to reflect on how time flows in your life. You are also recognizing the factor that affects time and its fluidity. If you manage your time, you’ll find ways to have the time of your life.

Saleem Rana is a psychotherapist in Denver, Colorado. Do you want to get rid of your dreadful "time-wasting" habits and start doing things in an organized, efficient manner?
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Monday, December 26, 2005

How To Cope With Difficult People

They are out there. They may either be your boss, college professor, business partner, landlord, or even your own spouse, children, siblings or parents. Anyone can be a difficult person to someone else.

You may not admit it -- but at one time or another; all of us have been difficult people to other people.

It is vital to see if you are in a situation with a difficult person or if you yourself are beginning to be one. The first solution to any problem is recognizing the problem.

Most times, difficult people do not realize they are difficult. They don’t see that they are demanding too much from other people. They think their attitude is just normal. Likewise, some of their victims may not see that they are dealing with difficult people.

It’s vital that at this early point, we grasp the fact that avoiding difficult people does not solve the problem in question. As earlier mentioned, these people are everywhere. There is no privacy they cannot invade.

Ironically, the more successful you get the more difficult people you have to meet and cope with. Coping with difficult people might even be considered an essential skill to getting and staying successful in your life.

If you enjoy sailing in the sea you have to get used to its moods. The key is not to stay out of it but to learn to sail smoothly through thick and thin. Likewise, it is learning how to deal with a difficult person that gives you smooth sailing amid a storm.

Once you master this, difficult people will start liking you.

So what makes a difficult person difficult?

Everyone out there is fighting a life battle of some kind. The battles may be fierce or mild. Different people have different stress tolerance. When people reach a state of high confusion and overwhelm, they become difficult. They, then, unconsciously project their frustration on you.

As a psychologist, my business is actually in dealing with difficult people, trying to make them less difficult. Once people become aware of their own inner pain, they begin to see how they bludgeon others with it, often unconsciously. Their lives are falling apart because they are critical, judgmental, and hostile to themselves and other people. Everything I do in a session is designed for only one purpose: to make them self-aware.

Given this opportunity to see other people more deeply, I have found the best way to stay objective enough to help them is to follow the advice of Don Miguel Ruiz, a brilliant philosopher. He said that everyone is living in their own dream, their own version of reality. You have to understand that everything they are saying about you is only a projection from that state of unawareness. In fact, they do not see you at all, only their interpretation of what someone like you means to them. Thus, he advised--do not take things personally.

If you base your values and your meanings on someone else’s point of view, you have merely traded in your own uniqueness and become imprisoned in their dream. You are letting them define you. No one can truly understand you…for they do not know you well enough to do it.

Once you really get this perspective, you can allow yourself the freedom to see them as they are--i.e. upset about something that has nothing to do with you but over something that is bothering them. They are experiencing something about you that does not even exist in your reality.

Often, too, they do not even use the same words in the same way you do. Let me give you a simple example of the often invisible linguistic barrier that arises between people. Yesterday, I was having a discussion with someone about “consciousness.” She argued that it had no value for her. This was puzzling to me…because what I was witnessing was a being that was animated because of consciousness. After some investigation, I finally understood that she had narrowed the word down to mean “figuring things out.” Thus, while I was defining the word as “sentience, life-force, and awareness,” she was defining it as “limited, circuitous thinking.”

Thus, even when two people are discussing what appears to be the same topic, they are actually talking about two completely different things. Each in their own minds are convinced that they are correct—because each is viewing something that is perfectly aligned with their own precepts and own vision.

The best way to cope with difficult people is to not take what they have to say personally.

If this does not make sense to you, consider the following.

Difficult people are difficult because:

(a) They project their inner pain on you; and you just happen to be at the wrong place at the wrong time.
(b) They do not even experience you as you are; but only interpret you a certain way because of their limited experience of you.
(c) They do not even see you as you are; but are only caught up in a dream state of what someone like you stirs up in them.
(d) They do not even hear the words you say; but are only interpreting the meaning of your words according to their own hidden definition.

Thus, when you really look at it deeply, it is not wise to take things personally. Once you remain free of getting stuck in their view of you, then you can intuitively understand how to cope with the situation.

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Sunday, December 25, 2005

Christmas in Your Heart

"You can create what you want in life; first you have to imagine it clearly. Imagine your ideal scene," said Marc Allen.

How do you use your imagination to transform your life on this special day?

You can use this day to create Christmas in your heart. This is a way of being that emulates the vision of the Christ. His entire vision was to teach people unconditional love.

In this unhappy world, your shift in attitude will raise the sea for all of humankind. All it takes is for you to change the way your own consciousness ripples across the surface of the ocean of humanity.

What would happen if from this day on you took to heart the Kantian imperative and acted as if your example influenced everyone? Imagine if from this day on you acted only in the name of the highest good.

Christmas happens once a year, but you can evoke Christmas within all year long and into the next one, too. It is an attitude of joviality, unconditional love, and humanitarian interest. Furthermore, do it without expectation of reward.

If Scrooge could do it, so can you. Is an attitude of goodwill to others really that difficult?

Nor is this an exclusive ideal reserved for just those in the Christian tradition. Unconditional lovingness affects everyone. It crosses all narrow boundaries of “them” and “us.” It sees no enemies anywhere. It advocates peace, not hatred.

Envision if meeting YOU was a transformative experience. Strangers would automatically pick up on your vibration of joy and forgiveness. They would, in fact, become aware of their own spiritual essence, which is pure and unsullied by the world. And you would not have spoken a word. They would just KNOW.

What would happen to your world if you stopped resisting love and even helped strangers in trouble without fear of getting hurt?

In all of time, and for all of humankind, you, in your humble little way, would be having an IMPACT. It would be so subtle that not even you would be aware of it.

So what is it that I am suggesting?

I am inviting you to go forth from this special day on with a desire to become a person of unconditional loving kindness.

You will not only transform yourself but the world around you…and the hope, the joy, and the ultimate purpose of humankind will become obvious again.

Is this an impractical suggestion?

Has anyone ever done it before?

What about your dog.

Can you really tell me that you as a human being with your impressive intellect cannot replicate the good-heartedness of a dog?

About The Author

Saleem Rana, M.Sc., studied psychotherapy more than a decade ago. Today, he lives in Denver, Colorado. Currently, his ideas have been shared with more than 100,000 people on the Internet. He is the author of numerous e-books and software products available on his website. He is also a prolific article writer, both online and offline.


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Saturday, December 24, 2005

Why Big Success Is Rare

You probably know that you have three ruthless enemies within you who will do anything to sabotage your success. They are doubt, fear, and uncertainty.

It is their job to stop you dead in your tracks. If you have a vision, they will tear it up. If you have a passion, they will mock it. And if you try to take action, they will help you fall on your face.

Never ever underestimate these three villains. They will do anything to keep you as mediocre as possible.

The minute you try and upset the status quo by daring to be anything other than what you have always been, anything more than merely average or even below average, they will spring into action. Like trained killer Dobermans, they go straight for the jugular vein. They are utterly without mercy.

This is the only reason why success is not for everyone. You have to be a fierce warrior to overcome these three inner demons. All the trial and tribulations you undergo when you dare to do something is because these three sub-ego states are at war within you.

The minute you even dare imagine that you might be better than you currently believe, they will ridicule you. They will immediately work on cutting you down to size.

Now how they work is very subtle. They work as negative feelings and low moods. You feel physically drained. You lack initiative. You experience ennui and apathy. Your thoughts get sluggish. They work with the stealth of skilled saboteurs.

Before you know it, you’re back on the track…even if it happens to be a rut that is draining you of vitality, happiness, and dignity.

Few people achieve success in life—despite the abundance of knowledge on how to do anything, despite the almost genius-level capability of the subconscious mind, and despite the resilience of the human body.

Now if this is not enough, you also have to contend with the doubt, fear, and uncertainty of everyone who knows you. You are upsetting their reality by daring to be different. This is why people who go to motivational seminars soon lose all their gains within a few short weeks.

Between the internal nay-sayers and the external ones most people look on their first few failures at anything as a sign to stop.

But there is no way that you can succeed initially. You just don’t know enough. And you just don’t have enough experience. You have to fail your way to success. There is no other path.

Even this simple page is a threat to you. Your three villains will convince you that you just don’t have the time, the money, or even the ability to follow through on anything that is said here. You will find it easier to not read these letters than to read them.

Nothing is more enticing than postponing success and avoiding anything that might bring you closer to it.

Some people are so numbed out and so beaten down by doubt, fear, and uncertainty that they can’t even begin to envision a dream for themselves. When you ask them what they want from life, they can’t even answer.

If you want to succeed in your life, you have to declare a total war.

You have to overcome the mood swings that will first show up.

And if that doesn’t stop you, then you have to overcome all your bitter memories of failure.

And if you still keep going, then you have to ward off everyone else’s disapproval of you.

And if you’re still on your feet, then you have to deal with your sudden high failure rate as you try and master something new and different.

It takes a high level of mastery to excel. It’s much easier to avoid the whole issue.

But if you can make it past all these obstacles, then, you’ll be as rich, as famous, as learned, or as powerful as your heart’s desire.

On the journey to success, the will to failure is initially much stronger than the will to success. It is like the gravitational field that exerts tremendous pressure on a rocket to stay earthbound. Only an opposing force of heat and energy can lift the rocket to fly free to the stars to explore brave new worlds.

Anyone who is a success in life is truly a hero in the finest sense of that word. He or she is the personification of greatness of character. It is an awesome feat to rise above mediocrity.

Saleem Rana is a psychotherapist in Denver, Colorado. If you would like to learn more about how to cultivate your mind power to help you conquer your fears, turn your dreams into reality, and get anything you want in life by unleashing the full powers of your will, you can find more information at


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Friday, December 23, 2005

Who Else Wants A Happy Marriage?

You don’t realize it, but in the next few minutes, you’re going to rekindle your passion for your spouse.

Remember that first date? How long ago was it? I know you can remember…go back there now. I want you to remember something…the butterflies in your stomach, the magic, the awkwardness, and that rush of anticipation.

Did you get nervous? Did you preen yourself before the mirror for hours before the appointed time? Did your heart beat faster when you first saw him or her coming through the restaurant door or sitting at a table waiting for you as you rushed in late.

Why were you nervous?

Isn’t it because that meeting was special? You wanted everything to turn out right. You wanted to be right for the other person. You anticipated a magical future.

What happened before that date? What kind of person were you? What kind of person did you want to meet? And how did you feel when you first saw him or her?

Now plunge right into the moments of that first date. Do you remember how he or she looked at you? Do you remember exchanging meaningful glances? Do you remember the smile, the motion of the hand, and the tilt of the head? What did you talk about on that first date? How did you feel?

What happened after the date? Where did you go? What did you do?

Can you recall that burst of happiness? When did it occur?

Do you remember the silences, the jokes, the special music, and the magical places?

How long did your romance last?

How do you feel right now? Is the magic still there? Has it faded away?

If you’re like me, you want the magic to make a come-back.

Now, it’s time to do something special. Ask your spouse out on a date. And during your date, ask him or her the questions that you’ve just finished answering. See if something magical might happen again.

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Thursday, December 22, 2005

How to Win at the Game of Life

“The best way for you to get what you want,” said Jim Rohn, the success guru “is to help other people get what they want.”

If you can fully grasp this concept, then implement it, you will never lack for material abundance.

Do you need a striking example?

How about the richest man in the world, Bill Gates? Chances are good that you are using some Microsoft products right now. Why? It is because you need them. In fact, so many people needed what he provided that he became the richest man in the world. True, there are other products out there that could do the same or even better, and you may regard Bill Gates more as a ruthless capitalist than a humanitarian, but the point remains—he provided the software industry what it needed in its fledgling days and he never let up on the momentum.

Similarly, Henry Ford, Thomas Edison, and John Rockefeller became extremely rich because of the same principle. Again, it doesn’t really matter whether you like these people or not…that is not the point. The point is that they provided an essential service when people needed that service.

They helped people get what they wanted and prospered enormously.

You can do the same.

In any company, in any entrepreneurial venture, it is the service provider who takes home the money. The slackers, the cynics, and the rebels watch the prizes fly past their noses.

Although this principle is clear, few people do it. They are too preoccupied with slandering those who implement it and too bitter and angry about their own struggles to credit the principle. Sometimes, in fact, they are so jaded that they don’t even see the principle in action.

When you can provide more quality of service, more quantity of service, and more eagerness to provide the service, the world will beat a path to your door. And, of course, you can choose what service you provide. It has to be something that you love to do. The words “over-deliver” and “extra-mile” are used to describe this principle. You can start right where you stand and apply the habit of going the extra mile by rendering more service and better service than you are now being paid for.

Sometimes people are reluctant to give others what they want because they feel that they will have less for themselves. Sometimes they simply believe that they are compromising themselves when they do this and becoming either sycophants or ruthless. These attitudes are both completely wrong. When you do what you love, you express your own nobility by giving more of what you love to others. There is no question about diminishing yourself in any way. In fact, it is just the opposite…you expand yourself! And instead of being a taker, you become a giver…thus, your virtue, too, is improved.

Please note that it is not important whether or not you are the best. This comes through experience.

A major block has to do with believing that you are not able to do this simple thing. Why? It is because you lack confidence in yourself. This is a major stumbling block—not only in making more money, but in living a fulfilling life. If you lack confidence, it is because you have had painful experiences in the past that have created a distorted sense of self-worth.

The wrap up. If you want more money, you have to provide more people what they want. If you provide service in something you love, you expand your power to give, and rather than diminishing your value, it expands it. Finally, you must have total self-confidence to implement this strategy—because it takes a sense of unswerving self-worth to stay the course. In the game of life, it is the team players who make winning possible.

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Wednesday, December 21, 2005

The Art of Success

In my study of people who have a knack for success, who seem to make the accurate choice at the best time, and who appear to constantly be in the right place at the right time, I noticed some essential success principles that they all use.

Their use of these principles is almost automatic. In other words, it is hard-wired into their nervous system. It is reflexive. It is an aspect of their subconscious programming.

No doubt there are many other principles responsible for their success, but these few were always present.

Study and use them, and see what they do for you.

Since thinking is nothing more than the process of asking and answering questions in your own mind, the quality of your thinking has everything to do with the quality of your questions. If, for example, you wanted to be wealthy, you could either ask, why am I broke? or you can ask how can I be a millionaire?

In the first question, you asked why. And in the second question, you asked how. This automatically directed you to making the first question negative and the second question positive. When you ask why questions, you try to solve a problem. When you ask how questions, you look for a solution.

When you ask good questions, you create a vision. A vision is a leap of the imagination. Usually, you witness something that impresses you, and you ask if you can be that way, do that thing, and have what the other person has. This vision from now on will be what moves you. It will get you up earlier in the morning. It will keep you working at your project longer and harder. And it will be the force that nudges you when anyone else would have quit in the face of a seemingly insurmountable obstacle.

Once you have a vision, you have to act on it. This action, however, springs from belief. There are two parts to belief. Do you believe that your vision is possible? Do you believe that you can do it? Belief is an act of faith. It is choosing to do what has not been done, in particular, choosing to do what you have never done before. And while a vision is a leap of the imagination, belief is a stretch of emotion.

If you can see it, and if you can believe it, then you have set into motion a new possibility for yourself. However, despite the myth of the self-made man or woman, you need allies—people who will share your vision with you. Human life is a cooperative effort. Success does not happen in isolation. True, you can create something all alone, but it really takes on meaning when it enriches the lives of others.

Since life is hard, most people are negative. They have been hurt or disappointed. Their point of view is oppositional. They seek control, approval, and comfort over risk, novelty, and possible discomfort. Thus, finding good allies is not an easy task. However, they do exist. There are people who have crossed the line between making a living and designing a life. Choose these people to be your allies.

Now that you have your vision, your belief that it is possible for you and a group of people who support you in your quest, the next and most obvious thing to do is to take action. This requires a commitment to action. A commitment means that you will do it regularly and not quit at the first sign of opposition. It is an act of deciding to persist before persistence becomes necessary. It also means that you will continually adapt your strategy until you overcome the limitations of knowledge and resources with which you will initially start out.

With all this in place, passion will come easily. You will actually start to have fun. Your life will become a big adventure. Your emotions will press you forward even when your mind and body have fatigued. Over time, you will do what today seems almost impossible. You will stun and amaze yourself and others. You will find yourself in a new and strange land, where you are the master craftsman and the creator of a beautiful reality.

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Tuesday, December 20, 2005

How To Read A Person Like A Book

When I was 15 years old, I found a book on body language. I purchased it because I wanted to read something on a train journey that I was taking that day. I read the book with some fascination.

Later, during the day, I struck a conversation with an elderly Irish clergyman, in the dining car. He was amazed when I told him that I could tell what he was thinking and feeling. He challenged me. And for the next 15 minutes, I told him what his passing moods were.

I laughed when he asked me if I were psychic. I explained to him that a person reveals his inner life by the way he moves his body. There is a language that one can read if you know the symbols. I spent a fascinating time revealing the secrets to him. He said that he would find the information very useful in counseling and advising people.

Today I still find the study of body language interesting. It is useful in getting to know anyone and helps in communicating with them. I suppose it can be used for sales, negotiations, relationship building, and any other kind of human interaction. I find it useful in getting a psychological profile on someone without my asking.

To illustrate my point, I will talk about confidence. How can you tell if someone is confident? Also, if you learn the language of body confidence, you can project an air of confidence and actually become that way.

Here are some traits of the confident person. By the way, you will be pleasantly surprised to find that you knew this already, but just had not put it together into an entire pattern.

Speech. A confident person is spontaneous in their speech. They speak without hesitation, and often with a great deal of enthusiasm. They also tend to be charming and entertaining.

Eyes. A confident person establishes more eye contact and has longer eye contact than someone who is nervous or bashful. They rarely blink, although this is not always true.

Hands. Hands usually gesture outwardly, away from the body, as if seeking to push or change the surrounding air around him. Internally, this signifies that the confident person has a belief that he or she can positively influence people and events. A common gesture, when sitting, is to steeple or taper the hands, so they resemble a church steeple.

Face. Usually the expressions on the face are in line with the flow of the conversation. If it is bantering, the face looks as playful as a child’s face. If it is serious, the expression is stern and determined.

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Monday, December 19, 2005

Seven Ways to Cope With Burnout

If you reach a point where you feel you can’t take it anymore, you’ve arrived—at a point of overwhelm that pop psychology refers to as “burnout.” It is a point of emotional exhaustion, mental confusion, and even physical fatigue.

The word itself originated from a description of a busted light bulb.

However, while you can’t do anything about a light bulb that won’t work anymore, there is plenty that you can do with psychological overwhelm. You might even say that unlike a light bulb, a human being is a self-renewing system.

Here are seven simple remedies to renew your mind, body, and soul.

One. Step out into nature. Go to the mountains, the forest, or the ocean. And if you’re really strapped for natural resources, go to a local park. I’m not sure how this works, but when you spend a sufficient amount of time in nature, you feel rejuvenated and your mind comes up with fresh ideas on how to cope with your pressing situation.

Two. Reframe. If you feel stressed because you are doing a task that you dislike, use your imagination to make it more enjoyable. For example, if you’re raking leaves, and you just hate gardening, then imagine that you’re raking in money, and that each leaf represents a hundred dollar bill. This will actually spark creative ideas in your mind on how you can improve your income.

Three. Energize. Go to a health-food store and get an energy supplement. Vitamins, minerals, and herbs can help your metabolism recuperate from the stress. Most health-food stores have someone to assist you, as well as reference books and videos on what to take for your particular condition.

Four. Introspect. In a notebook, write down everything that bothers you until you can come up with a way that you can change the situation. Start with a question. “What can I do about…?” Then keep writing until you come up with an answer. I once did this for two hours and came up with a new model on how I could radically improve every aspect of my life.

Five. Try music. Listen to beautiful, serene, uplifting music. Don’t do anything else as you listen to the music—or you’ll simply find a way to tune it out. Listen to every note, every word sung, and every interval of silence in the music. It’s amazing how this will transform you. Music has been said to tame a wild beast. It will do the same for the wild beast of your major upset.

Six. Relax deeply. Massages, hot baths, and stretching exercises can all be used to unknot your muscles. It’s impossible to be unhappy when your body is completely relaxed. The rise of stress hormones in your body, create a fight-or-flight response in your nervous system. Systematic physical relaxation reverses this condition.

Seven. Talk to an expert. Visit someone who can help you or read a book or hear an audio program by a stress reduction expert. As you open your mind to new information, you shift your stuck thinking and find new ways of dealing with the troubling situation.

Using any of these simple remedies or a combination for burnout will help you get your perspective back.

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Saturday, December 17, 2005

Be Your Own Hero: Seven Success Steps

“What do you want to be?”

This is a deep question that we often ignore.

We are so busy caught up in making a living that we forget we have the power to design a life. We forget the possibility that at any moment we can turn everything around and become an outrageous success in life.

Most people opt for the default choice of mediocrity.

Yet this is not a pleasant choice. Nor does it provide more approval, control or safety than risking the idea of following your dreams. When you fail to aspire to be anything, your life rings hollow with the pain of feeling unfulfilled.

The main obstacle people encounter in following this line of thought is how to set it up.

While the dreaming and the intending can come to you with a little bit of effort to overcome your resistance, the challenge is in how to start.

The truth is that you can be anything that you want to be—but you do have to work at it.

The first step is to have the courage to dream.

The second step is to make an intention (even if you don’t have a clue on how to start).

The third step is to choose a role-model. Who is already doing what you want to do? Who is already the consummate actor, the best-selling writer, the charismatic businessman, the internet marketing millionaire, or the great humanitarian? Whatever you want to be—there is someone who is already an expert at it.

The fourth step is to study all you can about that particular person and that particular field of endeavor. You need knowledge…lots of it…you need to enter the arena mentally at first.

The fifth step is to emulate your role model. Adopt that person’s habits and skills from your reading or even from your actual relationship with that person. Do what they do to have what they have—and when you do this, you’ll be like or better than them.

The sixth step is to continue to study and practice. It’s one thing to have the knowledge and to see how it is expressed in the form of someone doing what you want to do—and it is another to have it so deeply rooted into your subconscious mind that it seems like second nature.

And the seventh step is to persist. Obstacles will arise. Challenges will have to be faced. And you will have to work on your own disbelief that something extraordinary is possible for you; but if you persist long enough, you’ll learn from your mistakes and become the person you really want to be, and do the things that you really want to do, and have the things that you really want to have.

Seize an hour today to dream your “impossible” dream. Over time, you will realize that nothing, in fact, is impossible.

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Friday, December 16, 2005

The Fatal Aspects of Anger

Since anger is such a prevalent emotion in our high-stress societies, we tend to take it for granted. We even consider it a healthy release of pent-up emotions. Yet, at its extreme, anger can kill you or someone else.

When you are angry, adrenaline floods your body, thus stressing all your bodily functions to the maximum. Biologically, this is an emergency situation. It may have saved your ancestors by impelling them to use a club to ward off a charging saber-tooth tiger. And in a war-zone, it might be useful, too. But, as an aspect of daily life, it is a sure way to ruin the smooth functioning of your metabolism.

When you further consider how your blood pressure rises as well, you are talking coronary heart-failure as well.

Anger is deadly. And when it is expressed towards others, can quickly escalate into homicide. In fact, most cases of murder are due to an uncontrollable resentment toward someone else.

Even unexpressed anger has lethal side effects. It can escalate into all sorts of worse mental aberrations and unpleasant life experiences.

Anger, expressed or unexpressed, can ruin your life. It can kill you or someone else. It is not something that you should mistake for a mere character flaw.

Even at lower levels of hostility, anger can cause major upsets. It can ruin your mental and physical health over time, and it definitely ruins all your relationships. Eventually, it can even hurt you financially, create substance abuse, or involve you in a deadly accident.

Anger is nothing short of a brief insanity. After your rage has passed, you are looking at some form of devastation. During your episode of anger, you literally lost your mind—your bodily sensations completely overwhelmed any sense of intelligence.

We laugh when we watch movies like “Anger Management.” Yet the final joke may be on us if we permit anger to control us. Unless we take care of our anger it is going to ruin our lives.

Anger, like suicidal depression, is a mental illness. It is a brief loss of reason, an overwhelming desire to strike out and hurt someone, a manic lust for revenge at any cost. Like any mental illness, it needs immediate attention.

If one is subjected to uncontrollable bursts of rage, then this needs professional intervention. A professional healer will help you identify and remove the traumatic conditions that have upset you. Some of them may be so deep-rooted that you are even unconscious about them.

If anger is merely due to high-levels of stress, anxiety, and frustration, then a course of stress-relief is necessary. There are many books on how to reduce your stress through such simple measures as taking walks, having hot baths, getting a massage, doing deep breathing, visualization, exercising, listening to soothing music, or taking on some form of spiritual practice.

It takes a great deal of effort to build anything—a business, a relationship, or a life—but it takes a few outbursts of anger to have everything collapse into ruin. Can you really afford to take for granted an emotion that can result in either utter failure or death?

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Wednesday, December 14, 2005

Is Goal-Setting A Waste of Time?

You prepare to arrive at a chosen future when you set a goal.

When you don’t set one, the future is an accident of circumstances.
Usually, you arrive at a place you don’t want to be in.

In the first instance, you are like a traveler who chooses a destination, then maps out a plan, then finds ways to arrive at his chosen location.

In the second instance, you are like a traveler who merely wanders around hoping to find a good place. Your chances of getting what you want are slim. Happy accidents are rare.

When human kind lived primarily with the mammalian lobe as predominant, all life was an accident. But with the evolution of the neocortex, we were able to create mental maps to create better experiences.

Those people who live in reaction to circumstances have bypassed the advantages of their neocortex. They experience the crude outcomes of using only their mammalian brain.

Unfortunately, most of the people who are victims of circumstances, fail to take responsibility for their plight.

Besides foreseeing the future, goals also keep us motivated. They make the present more alive because we are living a life on purpose.
Anyone can live an accidental life, but the more progressive create their futures before they arrive there.

When we fail to arrive at our goals, it is because we plunged too far ahead into the future. It is better to set smaller goals, and then use the experience of reaching them to travel farther. Our plans need to be revised through the lived experience. This way we incrementally progress to a great future.

If possible, share your goals with people who are open to supporting you. When you do this, you will find encouragement as obstacles arise. Your friends may offer possible solutions or necessary resources—or help you keep your intention strong.

For some reason, many goal experts, like Brian Tracy, for example, have found that there is a certain magic to writing down your goals. This magic is further enhanced when you make a daily effort to read them out aloud.

I have also found it helpful to keep a log. As you set out on your journey to create a benevolent future, you can’t see far enough ahead to know exactly what to do. Rather, you gather better information as you review the steps you’ve taken. Instead of looking at the information you record as instances of winning or losing, consider the systems approach. See the information as positive feedback or negative feedback. If it is positive feedback, reinforce that strategy.
If it is negative feedback, see where you missed the mark and learn from it. This idea has also been called “failing your way to success.”

Finally, I’ll close with some words of advice from Joe Vitale, who routinely sets and achieves remarkable goals. His definition of a worthy goal is one that excites you a lot and scares you a little.

If it’s worth thinking up, and if it feels good, it’s definitely worth doing.

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Tuesday, December 13, 2005

Moving Past Depression

We all feel sad at times. We get lonely when someone we love ignores us. We feel disappointed when we fail at something. And we may lose something that we value. At times, our sense of loss is enormous, and we feel grief.

Depression, however, can also become a pervasive mood that slowly destroys our lives. It erodes our health and well-being, diminishes our self-esteem, and destroys our relationships.

While chronic depression is a clinical problem, requiring professional intervention, there are a few practical things we can do to snap out of feeling blue. Thus, although pervasive feelings of despair are due to past trauma, it is possible to take care of reactive depression that arises from circumstances by taking some practical measures.

Exposure to Light:

A common form of depression arises from deprivation of light and sunshine. This has been called S.A.D. or Seasonal Affective Disorder.

Insufficient exposure to sunshine triggers the secretion of a hormone called melatonin. When this is low in our bodies, we feel lethargic and uninterested in anything.

Since the nights are longer in winter than in summer, more melatonin tends to be secreted. This lowers our body temperature and makes us feel sluggish.

Simple remedies include lighting up the room better, especially with light bulbs that simulate natural light, walking more outdoors during the day, and spending more time exercising.


Busy people are often inspired people, and they are less likely to feel depressed. Doing what you love, taking inspired action, and associating with lively people is a sure-fire way to overcome feeling down.

Passionate action arises from creating goals. Intentions give meaning to our lives. As we act on them, we develop an unshakable belief in our own self worth. A positive attitude emerges from meeting and overcoming challenges.


Occasionally, fatigue causes a drop in our mood levels. When we are stressed, our minds become frantic and our bodies get exhausted. Taking hot baths, getting a massage, or just doing something fun can rapidly shift our moods.


Eating right can improve our mood. While caffeine and sugar may give you a temporary energy spike, they also stimulate anxiety. And while alcohol may be considered a way to forget problems, it is actually a depressant.


Exercise stimulates endorphin and catecholamine, which are stress-reducing natural chemicals. Similarly, neurotransmitters like dopamine and serotonin are exercise-induced natural chemicals that make you feel optimistic.


Finally, a lot of depression is simply due to isolating ourselves. Many jobs are object-related with little social interactions. With a warm circle of friends, we tend to view life in a more optimistic way.

Besides, the possibility of partaking in social engagements, words of encouragement, timely advice, moments of camaraderie and high humor can do wonders to lift our spirits.


Finally, of course, intimacy is the highest form of friendship, where the power of touch has a way of soothing and relaxing us. Experiencing respect and care is essential to being human. Love is the ultimate cure for depression.

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Sunday, December 11, 2005

How to Read a Page a Minute

The Industrial Age is behind us now. Machines can out produce even the most diligent worker. But no form of artificial intelligence can match the brilliance of the human mind. Thus, while machines can replace muscle, nothing can replace the brain. So, we in the Information Age must sharpen our skills to keep up with the rapid pace of knowledge.

Yet while multi-media presentations are becoming more ubiquitous, reading remains the primary way to learn. It remains an essential skill. The faster you can read, the more you learn. And, of course, the more you learn, the more you can earn.

Yet it isn’t enough just to process written information faster, you also have to be able to retain it.

Speed reading appears to be an answer to how you can read faster, understand what you read, and retain more of the information in long term memory.

Here are 7 ways you can start speed reading right now.

One, relax as you read. The more stressed you are, the less you can retain. A relaxed reader is an attentive reader.

Two, read with a purpose. Before reading isolate why you are reading, then select those parts of the text or book that gives you that information. Many books have low content because of the need to fill out a two-page theme to book length. Sometimes, too, even with a high content book, you may only be interested in a few chapters.

Three, weed out the nonessential. In line with identifying your purpose in reading something, use the table of contents to isolate
the essential chapters. Yesterday I wasted many hours of the day reading a book on concentration, only to discover that the chapters on techniques were profitable. The rest of the book was filler material. Now, I’m wiser.

Four, skip the structure. Many words exist in a sentence to hold the sentence together. Focus on key words. When you do a search on a search engine, you use key words to find what you want. Similarly, the human mind processes key words better than whole sentences. Usually more than 60% of any text is merely structure. By focusing on key words, you understand more.

Five, practice speed reading. Reading faster is a skill like any other. The more you practice, the better you get. Reading faster is more than an intellectual skill; it is also a motor skill, because you condition your eyes to move efficiently.

Six, condition your speed over time. Set a goal, and create a simple plan. Once you get to 200 words per minute, then aim for 250 words per minute, and so on. If you “train” consistently, you will actually be able to read a page a minute. A fit and conditioned runner can do a mile in 4 minutes…a page should be easier.

Seven, expand your vocabulary. The more words you know, the better your comprehension. Consequently, the less you pause to figure out what something means. Furthermore, the better your vocabulary, the higher your level of literacy, income, and social influence.

Reading faster does take some effort. However, your results will be worth it. As your knowledge expands, your income will soar and the quality of your life improves.

Alternatively, those who still have an industrial age mentality risk becoming obsolete. While we can’t slow the brisk pace of modern life, we can prevent the tragedy of falling behind.

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Saturday, December 10, 2005

Double Your Time, Double Your Success

Time is more important than money. Time measures the pace of your life. Money provides the means.

Effective people attain more money by mastering time.

The get more value out of time in any day. They use their time well. They have clear goals, plans, and actions. They out produce and out contribute and get paid handsomely. Over time, their compensation far exceeds effort, multiplying exponentially.

If you want to advance…if you desire success…you must master time.

Here’s how:

One: Delegate. Yes, assign tasks out to other people. Help them attain success by doing more. When you empower others in your team to do more and free up your own time to focus on key tasks—everyone wins.

It’s simple, isn’t it? Let someone else do the housework; repair what is broken; and run routine office tasks. Pay them well. In the meanwhile, maximize your freed up time by taking on more income-generating tasks.

Two: Plan. Clear goals, effective plans, and precise action. This is an irresistible formula for success. If initially, your goals are fuzzy, your plans exploratory, and your actions meander…you need to study and practice to bring your goals, plans, and actions into clarity, efficiency, and precision.

The tendency to simply leap into action will resolve certain issues but will soon run out of momentum. Once you put out fires, you have no idea how to build anything of sustained value.

The best way to deal with the future is to create it before you arrive. By mentally envisioning your future, by outlining ways to reach it, you move forward with a sense of focused power.

Goal-setting and planning are not a waste of time. Failing to do either is a waste of it. Take the time to sketch a guide that will steer you in the right direction. Take the time to map the road ahead. And take the time to explore different approaches.

Three: Be systematic.


Define your target.

Brainstorm ways to hit it.

Weigh the value of your various approaches. Then choose the one with the biggest benefits for the least risk. Your benefits should outweigh the cost. Choose only those plans with a high benefit, low cost ratio.

Estimate the time you need to hit the target. What is a reasonable deadline?

Create additional backup-plans.

Use obstacles along the way as feedback to refine your plans.

You can double the value of your time by delegating, planning, and systematically working out your plan. If you can master your time well, your productivity will double. Your income, however, will not grow arithmetically, but geometrically. It will grow exponentially. It will explode.

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Wednesday, December 07, 2005

Does the Tail Wag the Dog?

It is a perceptual illusion that what happens to you occurs from outside forces compressing in upon you. If you take the perspective that your interpretation of events decide the meaning of your experiences, then you are able to re-engineer your inner experiences. The result is living in a world that is more to your liking.

You are always at cause in your world.

And this means that what you perceive outwardly is the result of what you have conceived inwardly.

What appears to be is a selection of what you have chosen to see. The meaning of things does not exist in the things themselves but in your interpretation of them.

Thus, your mind programs not only your world but your physiological reaction to it.

What we call reality is nothing more than an agreement of what something means, and this agreement is never entirely consensual, so each person sees different things in the same scene.

Understanding this simple yet complex concept can help you turn things around for yourself.

If the world you live in is not to your liking, some self-examination will reveal how you have been critical of it, perceived threats in it, and reacted accordingly.

It is the dog that wags the tail and not the tail that wags the dog.

Similarly it is the inner that creates the outer and not the outer that creates the inner.

This perspective, however, is not apparent…for it does indeed appear that it is the tail that wags the dog or the outer that has influenced the inner. It takes some insight to notice that you subconsciously arrange your perception of the world.

Is this just an interesting psychological or philosophical view…or can you benefit from it?

In my opinion, it is possible to do three things to completely improve your experience in the world. In other words, when you recognize that the inner does affect the outer, you are open to the idea that you can reprogram your biocomputer with new software instructions.

These three things are metaprograms, or master programs, that run the rest of your subconscious software programs.

The first metaprogram that needs to be upgraded is your self-image. This can be upgraded by simply seeing yourself in all situations as competent. As you do this, you will notice where your actions differ from your ideal; then by responding to a negative feedback loop, you can make course corrections. Thus, over time, and with practice, competence will become more than an ideal…it will become a fact, obvious to yourself and anyone who observes you.

The second metaprogram that needs to be upgraded is your self-talk. What do you say to yourself about yourself? Do you say, “I can’t, I won’t, I don’t know how.” Or do you say, “I can, I will, and I’ll keep doing it until I learn how.” Negative self-talk will move you farther away from what you want in your life, and positive self-talk will move you toward the experiences that you desire.

Finally, the third metaprogram that needs to be upgraded is your self-esteem. How do you feel about yourself? Can you be open to unconditionally loving yourself, whether or not you meet certain internal criteria on how you and your experiences should or ought to be.

Thus, when you recognize that you are running the biocomputer and the world is actually an outprint of that experience, then you can revise three metaprograms, self-image, self-talk, and self-esteem to change the world into the way you would like to experience it.

No doubt the rest of reality will continue to malfunction, but as far as you are concerned, you will move into those arenas were things just get better and better for you and for everyone who is influenced by you.

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Saleem Rana got his masters in psychotherapy from California Lutheran University, Thousand Oaks, Ca., 15 years ago. He now resides in Denver, Colorado. His articles on the internet have been read by over ten thousand people from around the world. He loves to share inspiration and motivation for personal development. He offers numerous ways for you to radically improve the quality of your life. To find out more, please visit
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Saturday, December 03, 2005

How To Turn Dicey Situations Around

If you're not getting what you want right now, it's because you're using the principles of creativity backwards. You're busy miscreating!

Here's how to turn a dicey situation around: assume the feeling of having what you want.

When you think it and feel it, it comes to be.

First have a dream, a gloriously fulfilling dream.

Then ask yourself what it would be like to really be the man or woman you want to be and what would it be like to really have what you want.

What would it feel like?

Be detailed. Be joyful. And do it right now.

Your beliefs control your destiny. They are the software codes of your subconscious mind.

Instead of adopting the beliefs of your family and your personal history, your culture and your friends, create new beliefs, empowering beliefs that fill you with exhilaration.

Now activate these new beliefs with feelings.

Feel them into life.

Do this simple exercise and everything in your life will be different, drastically, wonderfully different.

How quickly things change for the better depends on how long you can stay in a good mood. The happier you can become and the longer you can stay joyful, the faster your good fortune will come to you.

Revising your beliefs about yourself, your role in the world, and how the world works means revising your world. Redesign the inner experience—and you will change the outer one.

How this happens is complex. You set into motion the universal laws of mind, the laws of physics known as quantum mechanics, and the psychological laws of self-esteem and self-acceptance.

But you don’t need to know how it works, or even why it works…you have to simply do it.

Imagine living the life that you really want to live.

Really get into the feeling of it.

And as you persist, the dream will melt into reality. Your idea will become a thing. And your fantasy will become a fact.

Do this exercise and everything will fall into place for you.
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Saleem Rana got his masters in psychotherapy from California Lutheran University, Thousand Oaks, Ca., 15 years ago. He now resides in Denver, Colorado. His articles on the internet have been read by over ten thousand people from around the world. He loves to share inspiration and motivation for personal development. He offers numerous ways for you to radically improve the quality of your life. To find out more, please visit
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How to Put An End Your Troubles

Success often takes time.

The more complex the task, the higher the success we desire, the longer it takes.

This is not because it is the nature of life to be as frustrating as possible. Rather, it is because we have to go through a process of progressively eliminating errors until we arrive at success.

While on the surface, most of these errors may appear to be a result of improper techniques or insufficient information or inadequately applied knowledge, the main source of errors lies in our own thinking.

It is our incorrect opinions, beliefs, and blind-spots that keep us locked into patterns of self-destruction.

If someone aspires to wealth, it is not the absence of a profitable enterprise that keeps them impoverished. Rather, it is their thinking. They first have to overcome their resistance to wealth. They hold in mind antagonistic beliefs about money, work, and opportunity. It is these beliefs that keep them in a state of scarcity. And this scarcity then reinforces itself as proof of their inadequacy.

If someone aspires to health, they hold in mind resistance to what it takes to bring the body into a state of self-repair. If what they are doing to get well is not working, there is an error in their thinking about it.

Similarly, if someone aspires to a good relationship, it is rarely that they cannot find the right person or that the person they are with has all the wrong characteristics. It is more often that they project their own repressed hostility on someone else. The result of not expressing love is the experience of not being loved and appreciated.

We are our own worst saboteurs of success.

No one, in fact, does a better job of making things worse than we do.

Change is possible at any moment, and massive change is possible as small changes continue over time, but despite the always present possibility of imminent relief from our troubles, we are in the habit of perpetuating them.

What makes positive progress so difficult is that our shortcomings, which are so obvious to others, appear to us to be almost invisible. We do not see the error of our ways, but prefer to hold the view that untoward circumstances have afflicted us. By disclaiming responsibility, we alienate ourselves from the positive action that will lead to a meaningful solution.

We are so much in the habit of being ourselves, so used to our troubles, that we seldom even entertain the possibility that a better way is available. In fact, if you look at your troubles, you will see that year after year, they are always the same cluster. Like hamsters spinning on a wheel, we don’t know how to get off.

How, then, do we get out of our own way?

Before we even begin to look for a way out, we have to find a way in. We have to look at the situation that is causing us grief and through persistent self-inquiry ascertain what we believe about it. This is not an easy task. Sometimes, we have to break through the armor of our own self-justifications by finding someone who is willing to tell us what is wrong with us.

Change is possible through self-growth and new learning. It happens only when we reach a point of total frustration and refuse to put up with our own self-imposed limitations. Only when we make change a must, a dire necessity, can we summon up sufficient will to break through the logjam in our thinking that has locked us into a wretched situation.

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Saleem Rana got his masters in psychotherapy from California Lutheran University, Thousand Oaks, Ca., 15 years ago. He now resides in Denver, Colorado. His articles on the internet have been read by over ten thousand people from around the world. He loves to share inspiration and motivation for personal development. He offers numerous ways for you to radically improve the quality of your life. To find out more, please visit
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Friday, December 02, 2005

Why Dreaming Is the Most Altruistic Thing

You were not put on this earth to work day and night and not enjoy life.

You were put here to enjoy an abundant life and live out your dreams. That’s why you have dreams.

Dreams arise because you exist. They are projections into the future of what you perceived as valuable in the past.

When you deny your dreams, you deny yourself. In essence, what you say is that what you value is not important.

If you persist in this suppression of your desires, your world will shrink to the point of calamity. The more you deny who and what you are, the worse things become.

Alternatively, when you accept your own value as a person, and, furthermore, accept that it is important for you to project what is valuable for you as the substance of experience, your whole world, as well as those who connect with it in some way, starts to expand.

When your dreams become a passion, then you will be unstoppable.

Nothing will stop you, simply because your dream is of more value to you than your intimidation by untoward circumstances.

If you do not know how to do something, you will find a way to learn it.

If you need to connect with certain people, you will find a way to meet them.

And if you need to overcome certain internals states, certain subconscious hesitations and resistances, you will find a way to overcome them.

When you grasp your own value, and when you grasp how important it is for you to get what you want, then your life takes on a meaning and an acceleration that will move you toward a more challenging present and a more exciting future.

Getting what you want is not a selfish act. People who deny themselves what they want, believing that it is selfless, are in a state of confusion.

You see, by getting what you want, you are in a place of power to give other people what they need as well. Thus, for example, when someone achieves a fortune, they contribute to the well-being of all, by providing jobs, by providing a valuable product or service, and by providing an example of what one person can do to make things better for the world.

Those who refuse to act in a positive way diminish not only themselves but everyone else as well because their potentiality remains dormant. Nothing of value is introduced into the world. Thus, for example, when you persist in deciding not to acquire wealth, you are suppressing the flow of money in the world. You are creating a point of stagnation. You are not offering anybody anything, and, in fact, you become a burden on others, because you have to tap into their resources to survive.

Your dream is of the utmost importance. While on the surface, a dreamer may appear self-seeking, he is in fact a picture of altruism.

Dreams redeem you. They redeem others. And they redeem the world.

The energy liberated in the actualization of a dream is a source of exhilaration for everyone.

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Saleem Rana got his masters in psychotherapy from California Lutheran University, Thousand Oaks, Ca., 15 years ago. He now resides in Denver, Colorado. His articles on the internet have been read by over ten thousand people from around the world. He loves to share inspiration and motivation for personal development. He offers numerous ways for you to radically improve the quality of your life. To find out more, please visit
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